I know I've probably said that before over the years. Probably more than once. Time flies. Some times faster than other times. Since the inception of plans for the wedding, the rate of forward movement of time has radically increased. In other words, there's just not enough and what there is, is quickly moving past. As I move around in this sadly neglected blog of mine (yeah, I've said that before, too...) I find that things have changed drastically here, too. Must check in more often.
Back to plans and languishing blogs. The wedding is next week. Plans started awhile back (five weeks, to be precise), but as with most plans, things get hectic. We can deal with it. Probably in large part because we are thrilled with our daughter's spousal choice. He's a pretty awesome guy. Those who know them, know what I mean. Those who don't probably don't care anyway. Since this is a major event in our lives, it seemed a good thing to blog about. Not that there haven't been other major events going on around here. Like hubby's cancer treatments, for instance. Very early detection, surgery (may not have been necessary!), three rounds of chemo, and seventeen rounds of radiation (daily, Mon -- Fri). We feel very blessed that the treatments seem to have knocked out the cancer. At least, nothing else shows up anywhere. (Non-Hodgkin lymphoma, we are told, is highly treatable these days...) But, between the wedding and the treatments, we didn't get to take the vacation we had planned. That's the down side. The up side, family that we were going to go visit are coming out here, instead. And, they'll be here for the wedding! Probably a good thing we weren't on the road this summer, after all. Wouldn't have had the money to plan the wedding--and we wouldn't have been here to attend it.
That last statement is not accurate, I'm sure. I doubt that the kids would have just up and gotten married without us. They could have done. They could have eloped. That would have saved money and nerves and... well, whatever an elopement saves on. This is not a dream wedding, by any stretch of the imagination. With the economy, there's just not enough money floating around to pull out all the bells and whistles. Lines have to be drawn, guest lists have to be worked and reworked. It's not easy when there are so many family members and friends to consider. We want everyone to be able to come and celebrate with us. It just isn't possible. But we've learned quite a bit from all this. Not the least of which is the fact that these two 'kids' are being responsible and considerate of what can and can't be done. They are working--together--to make this the wedding they want and accepting the fact that they can't have it all. And they are being mature, reasonable, wise about it all. We are impressed. No bridezilla tantrums, no unreasonable demands, no making this a reason for a drunken bash. What they want most is unity of hearts, family and a few friends, love and fond memories. They are young. They are starting out and excited and starry-eyed.
But far beyond all that, their attitudes inspire and shine a light of hope out there in a world that sometimes feels lost. They know what they want--and balance that against what is reasonable. Doable. And maybe we could have done more if we'd had a lot more time. But cancer is a scary thing, even when the docs say it's looking good. It's one of those things that says time may be running by swifter than we know. We think everything is going to be just fine. Especially watching these two kids plan their lives together, standing beside each other and showing the world that the youth are not out of control. They are pretty wise, after all.
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